NLP, or neuro-linguistic programming, is something I have been experimenting with for a few weeks now. I must say I am quite satisfied with the results and am looking forward to incorporating more of it into my daily routine.
In this article, I’ll provide an overview of a basic NLP technique (video included) that you can begin using TODAY to reprogram your mind for success and happiness.
Neuro-lingusitic programming, it sounds fancy, but it’s actually quite simple to use. All NLP does is take the natural thinking process and mold it in a way that decreases the intensity of negative emotions while increasing the intensity of positive emotions. The result is a happier and more successful you.
NLP vs. Positive Thinking
NLP is not to be confused with plain old “positive thinking.” NLP works; positive thinking works, but positive thinking takes a lot more time to see noticeable changes because it is going against the natural tendencies of the mind. If you are a habitual negative thinker, positive thinking is only going to make you feel worse because it creates cognitive dissonance (stress).
NLP is different in that it USES negative thinking, works directly with it, and minimizes it rather than trying to ignore or suppress it. At the same time, it maximizes the intensity and duration of positive thoughts. NLP systematically reduces that which does not serve you while increasing that which does. It is a prescription for happiness.
Now, let me explain a very basic NLP technique that you can start using immediately.
Watch the video below or scroll past it to read the written explanation.
NLP for Beginners (Video Explanation)
Thoughts Are Mental Pictures
All thoughts, good and bad, are associated with a mental image. What does your car look like? To answer that question, you have to form a mental picture. You may only be aware of these mental pictures at certain moments, perhaps when you are daydreaming, but these pictures float through our heads almost 24/7 and dictate our emotions and behavior. To change how we feel on the inside, and to change our habits from destructive to life-enhancing, we need to change our mental pictures.
Intensity of Emotion Depends on the Vividness of Our Mental Pictures
When you experience a negative emotion such as fear or sadness, its intensity is determined by the amount of detail in your mental movies. For example, if a loved one of yours just passed away, you may grieve for days, weeks, months, or even years. But what is it that separates the person who grieves for only a week from the person who grieves for months? You guessed it. It’s their mental pictures.
Death is interpreted in different ways by different people. For some, it brings forth a horrifying image of a hellish afterlife, or perhaps the emptiness of non-existence—of not mattering anymore. For others, it represents a transition into a more peaceful realm. In some cultures, the death of a community member is followed by a celebration. Very little if any grieving takes place, because death in their minds represents something to be happy about.
We can actually choose how we want death to look in our minds. We can add more detail to our horrifying image and increase our suffering, or we can choose to shrink that unwanted image in our minds and slowly replace it with something that actually brings us peace of mind.
The real answer to overcoming our emotional challenges in life is to change the way we think about ourselves and the circumstances we find ourselves in. The only way to actually do this is to go into our minds and EDIT our habitual imaginings that do not serve us. NLP can help us do this.
It’s Simple: Intensify the Picture of That Which Makes You Feel Good
If you want more positive emotions, you have to get into the habit of recalling your successes in life in full detail rather than your failures. Most people’s only problem is that they vividly imagine their failures and rarely ever think about their successes. Since they focus on that which makes them feel bad, they attract into their life more of that. Since they never let the good things come to the surface and thrive, the good rarely shows up in their lives.
The good is always there, they are just unable to see it because they are blinded by the vividness of their negative mental movies!
From now on, I want you to spend 5 minutes per day going into your past and recalling your very best memories, ones that make you feel extremely good inside. Play these memories over and over again. Re-live them in all their glory! See every color and detail as if you were sitting in a high definition movie theatre. Hear every sound. Feel every sensation that you felt at that time. Bask in the feeling of your past successes.
There’s nothing wrong with this! You are essentially programming yourself for happiness by practicing this. What you focus on will inevitably grow.
Some people say that you should forget the past and focus only on the present and future. This is sometimes great advice, but the truth is that all of us are living through our past programming anyways, so we might as well learn how to make it work FOR us rather than against us.
Make the habit of re-living your best moments in life. As you do this over time, you’ll find you have more and more good things to think about, and happiness will become your natural state.
Don’t Ignore the Negative. Shrink It.
Getting rid of negative thoughts isn’t done by ignoring them. What is suppressed will eventually be expressed. Pushing your negative thoughts out of the way does nothing for you. You must face them directly and modify them intelligently.
Start by taking a few minutes to recall all the things in life that make you unhappy. The pictures in your mind are probably very clear and detailed already because you are so familiar with them. But you want to become less familiar with them, so you must shrink those images down in your mind and make them less detailed. Picture those same images, but practice shrinking them down onto a tiny screen in the corner of your mind. Make them black and white. Distort the sounds. Replay it forwards and backwards very quickly until you can barely recall any details of the memory.
Remember, less detail = less emotional intensity.
Do this for a few minutes every day and you will soon find those thoughts leaving your awareness completely. What once plagued you and filled you with unpleasant sensations is now like a distant memory. It no longer inhibits your growth. You are free create your life without fear.
Ah, the taste of true freedom. It can be yours my friend.
This is a very basic explanation of a simple NLP technique, but now you know how to make it work for you. Try it out! You won’t regret it.
If you enjoyed this article, you might also enjoy the following resources:
- FREE REPORT – Unlimited Power: Achieving the Impossible with Your Mind
- BOOK – Psycho-Cybernetics: A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life
- ARTICLE – Build a New Brain: Why You Need to Think BIGGER
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